Category MySAAY: My Sexual Assault Awareness Year

My SAAY 4

Jeannie is a sexual violence program advocate at 2nd Chance. She likes boots, her truck, Pokemon hunting, candy, and has a fierce determination to help those who have been victimized transition into warriors.

Note from Jeannie: So, I haven’t written a blog since, like MySpace.   Good luck to me and here’s to hoping I don’t use obnoxious amounts of bad grammar.

Becoming a Warrior for Medical Care (and Self Care) after Sexual Violence Trauma

I refer to myself as a girl with a hard backstory. In a movie you sometimes need the backstory. Maybe in this blog you need some backstory. If it traumatizes you to read about someone else’s hard back story please scroll past the next section.

Trigger warning: Sexual Violence, I hate when trigger warnings have triggers in them! Will someone plea...

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MY SAAY 3

Adisa Salim is the Shelter Director for 2nd Chance, Inc. She is a mother of five sons and grandmother to nine. She is a community activist, author and spoken word artist. 

When I was a little girl, I didn’t have the “sex” talk with my mom. There was no talk of healthy sexuality because the rule in my childhood home was simple, sex was bad, don’t do it. In the 80s and 90s, the message that was most prominent was “just say no” to drugs rather than “no means no” when it came to my body. So, at 16 years old when I found myself being sexually assaulted by a boy I considered a friend. I didn’t tell anyone. I blamed myself for being in a place I shouldn’t have been. I blamed myself for trusting him. I rationalized what happened to me, filed it in the back of my mind and never spoke of it...

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MYSAAY 2: Rape is No Joke

Lauren Gualtieri is part of the Sexual Violence Program Team at 2nd Chance, Inc. She studies social work at Jacksonville State University and will always pet a cat when she meets one- even though she is terribly allergic. 

Rape is no joke.

We have all probably heard the jokes at some point in our lives, and we have probably heard some of the defenses of it too: “It’s just a joke, lighten up;” and “It’s free speech.” Sometimes it’s family, friends, or even strangers passing by. It’s not just men who make these kinds of jokes either. I have recently heard a woman “joke” about forcing her boyfriend to have sex, even if he didn’t want it. I pointed out that it was wrong and was told “it’s just a joke, I don’t really mean it.”

They say that with comedy nothing...

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